Earlier this week, the sound of impotent thinking could be heard, as each wheel of progress in my head seemed to run over some unforeseen nail…bringing me to a full and complete stop.

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Fwump!

There went the steady focus on my business.

Thinking was like trying to move through chilled honey.

Fwump!

Relationships were now floating paralyzed in the air.

Each holding the face of a surprised pixie -  open-mouthed, and googley-eyed.

Fwump!

My palette flipped a switch from salad and green tea to caffeine and sugar.

Fwump!

My Zen…vanished.

I’ve had 4 weeks of leaping forward with bounding stride.  Been – in “the zone”.

Why on EARTH is my mentality deciding to take a break!?!?!…?

What the heck just happened?

( Can you relate? Sounding at all familiar?)

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The excitement of the progress I’ve taken over the last 4 weeks swirled to the outer edge of this mad hatters tea-cup ride, as the center of gravity and focus now became these seemingly slow, negative emotions.

 

Eyes starring forward at a blank screen, my fingers lacked connection to anything articulate.  What I did notice was confusion about the wall I starred at.  Bricks of emotion faced me, each one branded ‘Sadness & Grief Co., Inc.’  How interesting.

 

But I SHOULD be happy…right?  After all, I moved forward.

Does this ever happen to you? You are chugging along the superhighway of life, having found a fast lane that allows you to move without barriers.  Then all of a sudden, – CACHUNK – fub fub fub fub – Ppppfffft – you’ve blown a tire and though you keep driving, you are shifted into a completely different mode of operating until, you stop. Next thing you know, you find yourself sitting along the roadside of your life wondering what happened.

 

How did I get here?  Where was I coming from?  Did I do something?  What does this mean?

 

Then the fog of confusion begins to creep in.

 

With as far as I had to leap to move on in my own life…I was leaving behind the stories, the excuses, the ‘old world’, what was home for quite some time.  And as much as I had jumped and experienced the thrill of the ride…the letting go of the past was a decision, but I forgot, it was also…a transition.

 

In some ways, the ‘old me’ was showing-up to say, “Hi…how are you?  I miss you.  I’m still here.  I understand you’ve moved on, but I will be here as a choice if you want to come back.”  And I don’t choose to go back.  I’ve chosen to move on, but there is still a human grieving of that familiar place.

In this moment I choose to take a step back from the momentum and look at what is in this moment for me.

 

• What all have I had to let go of to get here…so far? Acknowledging the “goodbyes”
• What do I have to let go of…to keep moving forward on the path I’ve chose? Am I clinging to something?
• What will I continue letting-go of, to continue the trek?
• What will try to pop-up for me…calling me back to the comfort of what I “know” and cause me to re-choose again to move forward? How will I recognize it? What will I do when I feel it?

 

Taking a step-back, allows us to reflect on our choices.  Taking a step back, gives each of our options a chance to be appreciated.  Taking a step back, can allow us to acknowledge where we came from, how it served us when we made those choices.  Taking a step back…to put PAUSE into the speed of the day, may just help us stay on top of those tires that go POP on the superhighway of life.

 

And sometimes, a rest from the highway is JUST WHAT WE NEED…to refuel, look at that tire…and choose NOT to get back into a pattern of going nowhere fast.

 

Something inside me is telling me it is time to step-back, and work from the inside out, before continuing down the path of task execution.

 

Something inside me is telling me, yet ANOTHER burst of energy is waiting to be unlocked.  But not without a cost.  Not without a price.  Not without a climb.

 

Something is telling me – confusion is just what is needed, to help me ask questions about where I’ve been, where I  want to go…so that I take responsibility for the choices I make.

 

Confusion …. What if I shift confusion to curiosity?

 

How can you enjoy the flat tires of progress you will undoubtedly experience?

Funny, last week I LITERALLY blew a tire out on my car, and it landed me at a truck stop. With a spare in the trunk, and the confidence to ask rent-a-husband pumping fuel at a tank nearby, it got changed and I was on my way.

 

What happens in the time ‘on the side of the road’?

 

The shoulda, coulda, woulda’s.  When we get stuck here in this place in our heads, we have LOTS  of questioning going on…did I make the right choice?  What if I can’t do what I’ve set out to do?  Who do I think I am that I can actually accomplish all of this? (sound familiar?)

 

What if instead of judging yourself in this moment you slow yourself down and know that you have what it takes to move in ANY direction you choose… What’s the worst that can happen? You can even look at that and make an accurate assessment.

 

When you’re speeding down a highway in your life, and you get a flat, it means something gave way.   Instead of ignoring it, barreling through, or ‘marching on with your head held high’…give it a chance to say what it has to say…get curious about it to see for yourself if there is something important for you to look at… or not… and choose NOT to let this pause, this flat tire,  keep you in place.

 

Be gentle with yourself… Say ‘thank you’ for the Old ways ofy our life, these “old tires” if you will… served you well. We relied on them time and time again and they got us to where we are…The tire I had been driving on, did its job for thousands upon thousands of miles.

 

• What can you appreciate about the ‘old way’…how did it help you get to where you are today?
• If you were to go ‘back there’, what would you no longer be moving towards?
• What was ‘nice’ about the old way?  What sort of comfort, power, validation did it provide you with?
• Can you admit you are truly powerful enough, capable enough, and ‘that type of person’ who simply…thanks the past, and moves on? ….go ahead.  Give it a try!

I know you are capable! AND I know it takes support to be this brave. It is why I have created this community.

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